Choices !!!

1. Spend less time on social media and you will be a happier person than before.

2. Spend 10 mins for yourself - meditate, talk to yourself, sing for yourself, dance, run. You deserve the pampering both to your mind and soul.

3. There is nothing called as happiness which comes on its own to you. Happiness is something that you train your mind to create in the things you possess or achieve.

4. If you don't watch the current news in and around you, you may not have the updates of the current world around you but you will definitely be having updates on what you and your loved ones need.

5. When in a priceless moment be it a victory or a birthday - use your EYE camera more than your phone camera. 

6. Its ok to lose, its ok to cry, its ok to fail in things, its ok to get hurt. You are a human and you have feelings. Use every moment of failure to make you a better than stronger person.

7. When you are full of emotions, breathe deeply but do not take any decision or action. Delay is, at times, wiser option than regret.

8. Spend sometime in your week for helping someone out of your circle of interest. Empathy and charity teaches you to built a stronger inner self.

9. Time is an entity you create out of your busy schedule, use every second wisely.

10. Last but not the least, you have one life, live it to the fullest without any regrets.

Does God Exist on Earth?

Want to share a good news which someone wanted me to share here.

Was about to fund a slum kid for his bsc education. Finance ke apne khud ke laale hai to thoda help manga.

Friend of mine mazak mazak mein bola ki tu Full Marathon sub 4 maar lega to mein tujhe 20k de dunga to fund him.

As you all know I missed my target by a long way. Today I got a call from the kid's parents that someone came to their place with my name and said that no matter what field the kid selects, he would fund him. The kid aspires to be an engineer, my friend and his team is ready to fund his entire education no matter what the fee is.

All they wanted me was to give my best in the Marathon irrespective of the result, they went to the kid, the moment I told them that I completed but failed to achieve what was expected, and told him that they would fund him. Feel I have won a bigger Marathon today than the one on Sunday.

Why marathon runner is always a mad person?

 Why marathon runner (non-elite or non-pro) is always a mad person?

1. Gets up at 3-3.30 oclk in the morning on race days and training days giving up his all important sleep just to run long. Pagal hai na?

2. Scientifically proven that normal human body can run till 25 km above which it needs fuels due to lack of energy and possibility of lactic acid formation (brings fatigue). Still these mad men/women run 17.2 km more than 25 despite knowing this fact.

3. They know they don't have to run so long to stay fit but still they do - madness redefined?

4. Normal people use gels to shape their head hair but marathon runners eat them - trust me I ain't lying.

5. Normal people prefer salt after a tequila but these species eat it without a tequila shot. Not only that, they spend 30 Rs. for a capsule which contains salt - you need any more proofs of madness?

6. Normal people would prefer taking a cab for a 5 km distance but a marathon runner would say - "Kya cab karta hai, yehi to hai, chal ke jaate hai." (Trust me they get abused for this time to time)

7. Do marathon runners who run marathons know that they are troubling their body? Yes they do. Fir bhagte kyu hai - "10 km warmup ki kasam, iska reason vo khud hi jaante hai" (you heard it right about warmup)

8. Do you know that there is a small probability of getting chaffed (thats a normal word for a marathoner but it means getting cuts on body) when u run a marathon? Imagine their madness when they do it despite knowing ki yeh ho sakta hai.

9. Ask any marathon runner - "Kyu bhag rahe ho marathon." Siva "Self satisfaction" ke alava koi answer diya to vo jhoot bol raha hai. Yeh "Some pain is good" bolne waali jamaat hai, inke sath thoda pyaar se bartav kare.

10. Last but not the least - Iss bimari ka koi ilaaz hai? Jarur hai. Inshallah kudrat bhi itni sundar hai ki aise pagalon ke liye bhi dava banai hai. Jab ultra running (public 12 ghanta, 24 ghanta, 100 kms, 200 kms bhi bhagti hai) ke baare mein sunoge tab yeh jamaat normal dikhne lagegi.

Courtesy Abhijeet Prabhu 

#JustMarathoner #FactsOfMarathoner #MarathonLife

The Dream Run

Date : 11th June 2017

Day : Sunday

Time : 0900 hours

It was a gloomy day to start with. I had a plan with my friends to visit Tata Memorial Hospital for Cancer patients in Parel, Mumbai and spend time with the patients there. We were a group of 6 people initially planned to visit the place. Due to unfortunate incidents, one behind the other out of the 6 started cancelling out and because of things which were unavoidable. I was left with 2, myself and a close friend of me called Akshay through whose reference I was supposed to visit that place.

Not only did we have cancellations from our buddies but it was raining torrential. To add to it, the western railway was having mega block which delayed trains further. Our plan was to take fruits to the hospital and distribute it there among 200 patients, but due to shortage of man-power, commutation with fruits for 200 people was a big question. Google then added on to our already existing list of problems. 2 Reliance Fresh stores, 1 Ofresh store and 1 super market which Maps portrayed as opened never existed. We ended up wasting around an hour finding a place where we would not only get fruits but would get quality and proper packing to enable us take them to the hospital. Our last throw of the dice was a Godrej Nature's basket store which was at Prabhadevi, 3 kilometers away from where we were then located., again with the help of google maps. We took a cab and made our journey in a near to give up position just to find out that the Nature's basket store was in place and open. Then the onslaught started and it was no stopping us.

We emptied 4 racks of apples and 2 racks of pomegranates without really thinking what would be the approximate cost of the fruits we were then purchasing. Not to forget it was still raining torrential and we were already drenched in rains. Somehow managed to pack all the taken fruits and checked out. The staff was very helpful and helped us carry those packed packs (God knows how many) to our cab. We somehow managed to fit ourselves with all the fruits in and over us.

We entered Tata hospital 20 minutes after we left Nature's basket. Our entry in the hospital was near to hilarious. Akshay's mom apparently was a doctor in Tata and she was then the only available doctor with us. With near to no staff available for spare since it was a Sunday, we were on our own to carry the Kilos of fruits we had with us. What best we could then do is hire a stretcher. The stretcher for a change was not having a patient on it but racks of fruits. We were looking as if we were some fruit vendors moving in to open a fruit stall inside Tata. We then entered the general ward with stretcher. Close to 80 Females and 80 Males in the general ward, a ward which is meant for the under-privileged and has limited resources was our prime target. The faces spoke a lot there. The fruits that we offered to them was not only a blessing to them but to many a medicine which maybe they could not have afforded with ease. The stories, the smiles on faces of patients which are still in dire straits spoke a lot, the change of expressions and thanks in eyes of their relatives spoke a million words. Small stories which were like a stress buster to them and to ease out their frustration probably claimed our motive to help them. Fruits were just a medium to interact, the main gist was to hear them out. We then entered the Day-Care where patients are kept for Chemotherapy. A place were its rare to see people apart from the ones suffering to exist but we still made it through. The faces there spoke a million words just by expressions when we could give them fruits and maybe have a word or 2 with them. Few were so happy that they wanted to have pics with us but due to restrictions, we had to deny them, the feeling though was conveyed in the perfect manner.

More than 200 patients served in a day, many of them heard out and some quality time spent with them to ease them out on their frustrations and tensions probably made our day a not so sweet to experience in terms of the pain one goes through, but memorable in terms of the way we could serve them in the best possible way. It happened to be my birthday, couldn't have asked God for a better gift than smiles on faces of 200 patients or more and their relatives. Sometimes, life that we have seems to be pathetic and weird but looking at these people, I really do feel blessed to have such a wonderful life. I pray to God to give them and their relatives all the courage to handle the pain and get them out of this asap. For me, it was a birthday well spent, first with the people I work for and then with my family. Last but not the least, the motive of my life still stay the same and with every single second of me passing on towards eternity, my team's effort with keep on growing - "In this moment of grief, You'll Never Walk Alone"...

Regards,

Gladi.

My real treasure...

This one's comes straight from the field and related to an O-ve blood post I shared few days back...
In my college times, I knew many colleagues who were rich, filthy rich...Used to roam around in Mercedes, handsets of apple, watches of Tissot and what not...not that I did try to reach them but then I was mostly ignored given to being from a middle class background, I couldn't afford or never felt like drinking a CCD coffee daily, Never could afford or felt like Pizza Hut orDominos every other day and it was obvious for me to be side tracked...I never felt anything about it and I don't blame either of those as well given to a clear difference in living and eating status...
It was 2 days before when I was in a night shift at work (I work as a small government servant) and I got a call from one of these colleagues asking for O-ve blood for his wife and kid who suffered in a bike accident...I didn't really ask for reference but he identified himself as a batchmate of mine (different college but same year)...I said I would try and hanged up since I was completely engrossed in solving a similar health issue faced at work in front of me...
Looking at my even stressed forehead, my team workers who stood in front asked me - "Sahab sab thik hai na???"...I told them what happened, shared the need with other contacts on social media and got back to helping the one in need at job...Within an hour, I got a call from the same friend saying thanks to me...I never knew that it was my team's 2 people who stepped up to donate at night 2 o'clk who stayed near the hospital and were home after completing their shifts earlier...They denied money offered to them by my friend and said they were asked not to take money by me...
Well I don't know how could I thank them for saving somebody's life who then never bothered to talk to me (well he still doesn't had it not been for the need)...I don't know who is rich or richer...But certainly the people I meet as the real jewels in my life...

Reverse Dowry - A Hidden Bitter Truth

          Yes you read the title right, I mean it and a term called reverse dowry exists. The term dowry in itself is such a pathetic gesture shown by a groom's family towards the bride's family that the girl in itself feels ashamed of marriage. But the real question is when we are in midst of removing this pathetic practice of dowry taking, does this really start at this point of asking dowry or are all marriages which are dowry less don't have any other conditions before the marriage goes to completion??? Give a thought before you read ahead how marriages happen this days.
          Reverse dowry - conditions that are expected or asked out of a guy before he marries a girl. Girl's are slowly becoming independent and reaching the limits of professional line, from managers to ceos and this is a great sign for a developing country like India where women are slowly and steadily climbing up the gender equality ladder. I myself am in support of this and also work towards the betterment. But does this really mean the guys now need to be judged 'ONLY' on basis of the money they earn, the assets they own, the post they are at, the size of the house (their own house) they stay in??? Are humans really not valued over money. Let me clarify what I mean by a few instances of my own friends which would make my above statement clear.
          My friend who was a production line manager in a reputed production mnc earning close to 60k per month. Having a decent amount of saving and a clean past, he always was in the forerunners in the quest towards getting a good girl. Even after being from a sect of society where dowry is prominent, he decided against taking dowry and marry a girl which his parents feel is right. The result - his inlaws felt there is something wrong with the guy. The girl's brother and father after marriage is on paper went to meet every single friend he had in college and started inquiring about his past life if he had any problems in terms of relationships with girls. Then went to his family doctor and started enquiring about impotency and other diseases. Now is the guy wrong here in not asking for dowry?
          Another case, it's about a colleague who studied alongside me, from an mnc again and earning handsomely. A gem of a persom any girl would prefer to get married to. Went to see a girl with whom things went ahead till engagement fixation given to families knowing each other. Now I thank God that this happened 3 days before marriage (it was much foolish of my friend to not have asked the girl what she expects). When asked for her expectations, here it was, I want my husband to earn 90k atleast (her salary is 10k), I want him to have a honda city and a flat of his own in first year of marriage, I may prefer leaving my job after marriage but would need maids to cook since I can't cook, we would stay seperate since I want my own privacy (mom dad would stay seperate and this kid was their only son). There were many more questions concering how much he has saved and about his job location and security. Has this guy made a bluder for being a gem of a human taking responsibility of parents and earning handsomely???
          The point to get ahead is if dowry is condemned then what are these demands called? It's fine to ask about a guy's stability and his earnings but checking his salary slips for proof is a bit too much. It good to live in dreams and dream of good things but I think dreams are built together and they don't come in a readymade packet. Well the readymade thing is all what is expected out of a guy these days, the nature and stand of the guy in his life or his struggle in life to reach where he is, is considered irrelevant these days. Simple question is if you want a guy to have 10 lakh as his savings, is it really wrong if a guy asks 10 lakh as dowry in return? If we are condemning the latter part then shouldn't the former, which is mostly been ignored as it is considered as expectation for stability, be equally condemned? When I asked a guy who demanded 90 lakh as dowry from girl's family as to why is he demanding dowry when he is good to do, here was his reply on which I really had no words left to reply him back - "My wife wants a 2 bhk flat in andheri (cost close to 2 crores), I am having 1.1 crores as my savings till date, I need the rest to complete her need..." Now this individual was condemned for asking dowry and even thrown behind bars but the earlier expectation was completely ignored. Was the guy wrong in asking for dowry in this case?
          I don't say that all girls or their families do it (all don't take dowry too), but these things are more prevalent especially in the sophisticated world where a guy is considered as a money and asset vending machine more than an ideal husband and an ideal son. His stand in his life for his family is easily overpowered by the amount of assets he owns in life (his own assets and not his father's). Are the guys who are against dowry really wrong in not demanding it when things are being demanded out of them either by the girl or her family? If dowry is being considered illegal, shouldn't this term which is mostly unseen called "Reverse Dowry" considered illegal? It can never be made illegal but it's just a request to every single girl who is reading this post - do look out for a guy's career but do value him as a person more than valuing his position in professional world in life. Just prayers to all those who are a victim of these demands, god bless you lads.

Regards,
Gladi.

A miracle in the making...

          Its been years, not one day when for a second I felt that something is missing in my life. Struggled a lot over years but never could reach 100% satisfaction. But things don't normally stay the way they are. The incident and human I am about to reveal to you is real and such kinda people exist on this planet.
          I was on my way from kanpur to jhansi after a fairly tiring weekend and was near to exhaustion. It was late night and my patience towards life and god was nearly getting exhausted. Finally managed to find a train and a seat which belonged to someone else. A family comprising of mom dad and their teenage child were seated near me. Things changed suddenly when I asked the lad to help me lift the seat since someone wanted to sleep and his dad replied immediately - He can't. I looked for a second in agony but then understood the lad's hand was missing. I kept quite and helped the fellow passenger to his seat. His dad was fairly quick to reply me back with a sorry and said his kid lost his hand in a railway accident. The situation became intense as I looked at the lad seriously, fair in colour, seemed to be aggressive from the way he spoke, right hand broken and left hand semi-paralysed. He lost his hand when standing on the door with station inches to approach, the train gave a jerk when he fell off and his right hand came off while his left hand was badly bruised. But he was not the guy I would have thought off.
          From being a theist to becoming an atheist (so called you may say), this guy never looked low on his energy. Apart from the day he was admitted, he never took an anesthesia while getting his stitches done or for relocating the iron bars planted inside his left hand. Consuming 8 bottles of blood, he was never unconscious after his accident. In complete senses, he knew all what happened to him after the accident. The doctors were scared of him and wardboys and nurses use to run looking at the pathetic condition of his body state. The real question is what kept him alive after a near to fatal accident and most importantly energetic more than an other human I knew in my life? What was he teaching me or trying to convey? A 17 year old lad who was almost near to death looked more enthusiastic than I was ever in life?
          It was his will to live, not only to live but to live it up to his best. A reply to every question and an ability to fight his current state, he stood second in his 2nd year with a writer and without studying a bit. The simplest aspect was he accepted life as it is but never gave up. He fought this condition and his will power to be big in life, to not been scared or shattered for what happened to him and living upto the fullest thinking about how future can be better was commendable. The real question of putting this post is if a 17 year old can show this kinda courage in the most disastrous condition is - If he can then why can't I? Why can't anyone who is reading this post live a life without much complaints? I guess we need to change the way we look at life, try being optimistic than just keep complaining about the happenings in life. A guy who lost both his hands asking me what is the line he should decide ahead so that he can research. I mean can we really try and live like this for a moment in life. Try living a day rather than giving up. Girlfriend left you, failed in exam, feeling miserable, being ditched or bitched by friends and  want to commit suicide for all these reasons? Maybe you should try giving life another chance. Maybe you should try manipulating your life according to the results you get, according to instances coz future is a blank book and is yet to be lived. Giving up is not a way but fighting hard is. This lad changed my thinking in a million ways, now would back this guy up till he reaches the IIMA levels, he is tailor made for such institutions. I hope God supports me in making this poor lad (poor in finances) achieve something which I could only dream off.
          A request to all readers to pray so that our efforts in saving the lad's hand meet success. A gem in making but it will take years till I polish this lad to perfection.