The
subject line says what I am about to depict or write in this article. But I
really like this phase of my life which is going since months to count and feel
admired to write about the same in general. Dedication, determination and
persistence – is what this one letter word teaches you in due course if you
possess something called as patience in life. I don’t know really how to define
this phase but it speaks out a lot. They are always there in and around you and
haunt you as ghosts or spirits but the only difference of perception that one
should possess is – ‘You need them to succeed in life.’
It is actually pretty weird to
depict why I love them, to be frank, I have no reason to do so. But they are
more realistic, interesting and loyal than what your girlfriend can possibly
think of getting in her lifetime. They are the phase and face of your life,
just that the ones who succeed learn from them since each and every single
failure not only teaches you a good lesson, but makes you equally strong and
resistible to the debacles which got you those failures. Another interesting
thing to look at is your stamina through this rough phase. They test you and
the test gets tougher as the failures pile on. For the theists, I can simply
sum it up as God’s gift to them while he keeps on pushing you ahead in the road
towards destiny in life. The reason for why should one love failures if very
simple, if you love them as you love your better half, they won’t hurt you,
instead as a teacher, they would tell you what you lag at to be where the
winners are placed.
Micheal Jordan did not give up after
he was thrown away from his school basketball team, Marilyn Monroe did not
commit suicide after she was rejected by the 20th century fox,
J.K.Rowling did not give up after been rejected by 12 publishers. The best
example to set is Thomas Edison who may have failed more than 10000 times while
inventing the electric bulb where he quotes his failures in a complete
different way – “I have not failed. I have just found 10000 ways that won’t
work.” There are numerous examples that can be quoted, but the best thing that
I like about anyone who goes through this phase and never gives up is that they
keeping trying. Sometimes I myself feel, being a big student of the failure class,
that I fear something called as success if it comes too early in life without
trying since it may reduce or nullify my effort towards trying to win. The
simplest way to sum it up is keep trying rather than thinking, if you want to
think then think of bettering and fine tuning your effort every time you try.
Sometimes the phase is indefinite;
you don’t know when it would end. The sole reason is that you don’t accept what
you get but keep cribbing about the same, and as it’s rightly said, life
doesn’t give you anything till you demand things from it. If I happen to get
into philosophy a bit then would say that this happens since God wants to keep
you humble as much as possible. This is another aspect of fighting out through
this difficult phase, keeping your ego lower than grass when it comes to
accepting things in life. As human psychology goes, there is a tendency of
human mind to divert from its main motive when successful and to add to it, the
mind gets depressed when things don’t work out. The only solution to this is
patience which forms the base of the fight towards success in life.
It is a step wise process rather.
The moment you fail or end up being a centimetre short in a race, don’t feel
that you lost but feel proud that you made it that far. The thought should not
end here, but you need to analyse – either by learning through a mistake that
you committed in your effort or something that can be learned from the winners
and can be bettered in yourself to make you reach the winners pedestal. I
remember the host asking a question to the legendary Asha Bhosale – “How long
did you take to learn singing?” and she humbly replied – “I am still learning.”
The main reason for me stressing on something called as humble attitude is that
the moment you are handling a failure, it doesn’t hurt since you never expected
anything in the first place.
Another thing is look at is,
failures mostly come in heaps, and they make you equally matured in life. In
even simpler words if I had to quote it, you need to know the taste of sour to
understand what does sweet mean. Likewise, success without failures is
tasteless. The taste of the fruit of success when it turns up after multiple
failures is priceless and out of this world feeling. But to achieve this
success, one needs to keep up the tempo of his efforts intact to ensure that no
stone is left unturned from his end. It may be a coincidence that most of my
life successes happen to come after multiple failures, these failures or in a
better way to quote them as steps towards destiny have become an inseparable
part of my life, so much that I fell in love with the sweet steps in my life.
It is difficult to depict how it feels been under multiple failures in life
till you finally end up with success, but only one thing to be remember as
mentioned in the holy Bhagwat Gita that after every bad phase there would be a
good phase and most importantly this phenomenon is vice versa. Just to end with
quotes from Birbal to his Emperor Akbar when he asked the former to tell him
something that would make his smile when he is sad and make him frown when he
is happy, out came a witty reply – “Whenever something happens in your life,
just remember ‘This will pass by’”. Finally a word of advice to all my fellow
readers from a person who went through thousands of failures in his life and is
still counting is, “Whenever you fail in life, remember God wants you to learn
and it is not the end of life, but the start of it.”
Regards,
Abhijeet
(Gladi).
[P.S.
– This article just depicts my current phase and nothing else. A way of life
which I am in love with.]
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